Self-Preservation--To protect oneself from harm or destruction.
I'm a victim of self-preservation, and I hate it! I am constantly fighting against it, getting so angry at myself when I fall into it. And this is just one of the many things I'm on guard about daily.
I was telling Grant yesterday that I spent a lot of my day evaluating who I'd be without God. I think most people that know me would say I'm a pretty positive and happy person most of the time. I try to be kind and intentional in every situation I find myself in. But I've got to tell you, I would never be that way without God. Seriously...I'm sure you've heard people say that a lot, but who I really am, and all my flesh, does not amount to a good person. Without Him, I am selfish--caring only about ME and what makes ME happy. I am consumed with wanting everything to go my way, moody and never content. That is actually me and I am overwhelmed with the awareness that I absolutely have to know God and have His Holy Spirit at work in my life.
Self-Preservation is a defense mechanism. It's usually used in situations to guard yourself from getting the type of outcome that you do not want or that you fear. And some would say, "well, isn't that a good thing? Don't you want to protect and guard your heart." Absolutely, guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." But self-preservation is a selfish act, something you do in order to maintain superiority.
I have found that with certain people in my life, I have adopted this attitude of self-preservation in order to feel greater or to hinder access to be hurt or feel judged. Unfortunately, the outcome has not been so healthy. Instead of being known and understood, there has been growing separation and misunderstanding. While I was so busy protecting myself, I never gave people a fighting chance to truly understand me...too preoccupied with feelings that managed to get hurt while I was trying to escape just that. I guess, if we're honest, a lot of us would say this is a struggle. We all want to protect ourselves from harm. We want to guard ourselves from anything that would make us feel less than worthy. We are prideful. I am prideful.
As I think about all of this, I think of what our society teaches. "Don't be a doormat!" "Fight for your rights!" "Get what you deserve!" I think that's probably the opposite of who Jesus was and what he taught. Isn't the goal to become more like Him? Which means, sometimes being a doormat and giving up our rights, and at times even allowing people to get away with mistreating us. Ouch! That's hard to swallow. Think about the times when you've had a legitimate right to be angry about something. Didn't Jesus have a lot of those? Like the cross, for example. It takes me to 1 Peter 2:23: "He did not retaliate when He was insulted, nor threaten revenge when He suffered. He left His case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly."
God's word is not popular, even to us who follow it. It's hard stuff, but I think we'd all agree that we need Him. We absolutely cannot be disciples without Him--it just can't be done in our own strength. My self-preservation and pride cannot be cured and transformed into humility without God at work in me. We cannot fulfill Galatians 5:14 without God at work in us.
We all have to face it: self-preservation and every attempt to avoid hurts and pains eventually make us slaves...slaves to the illusion of safety...slaves to our own little prisons built inside us.
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